The Soul Sitter’s Handbook, What to Do When Your Loved One is Dying, offers purposeful and simple methodologies for anyone facing the death of a loved one. Because our relationship with and love for each person tends to be different, it is safe to say that the experience of death is unique in each instance. The Soul Sitter’s Handbook holds your hand each step of the way and provides you with simple yet effective ways to support your loved one, even in your own sorrow. It focuses on sensible issues, such as when to call in hospice and how to be a patient’s advocate but also reaches into the heart and helps with less tangible care, such as conversation and connection. The Soul Sitter’s Handbook offers solutions and protocols that give the dying person the dignity we all deserve in the last moments of our life. A must read if you are faced with saying goodbye.
Excerpt from the Soul Sitters Handbook:
"Soul sitting is something that can begin with us. To be truthful, it should begin with us, individually, while we have the presence of mind (and the emotional and mental clarity) necessary to face such a crucial time in our own lives. Now that you have embraced the concept of the Soul Sitter, you are in a unique position to create a purposeful passage so you can live a more purposeful life. The five separate times I have cared for my dying loved ones created fertile ground and gave me pause to consider my own death. I began asking serious questions of my own life and its ending. While I understood that I, perhaps, had no way to predict the time or circumstances of my death, what I might be able to do was inform those I loved of what was important to me. I realized I wanted to equip and comfort my family without leaving them second guessing as to what I wanted or what they should do. Too often, families are torn apart when facing the many decisions to be made regarding the death of a loved one. The death of a mother, a father, or even siblings, when left to interpretation or supposition, creates often stressful or even tragic results. One surviving person wants one thing during the illness or after the person has died, while another wishes for a different result or experience. One child believes their parent wanted one thing, while the other child may have knowledge of a different outcome desired by the parent. I don’t believe this is something that happens on purpose. In a world where “fast forward” seems to be the life-train we all ride on, I have found that few plan for their death or make an attempt to script the circumstances for the end of life. Confusion does not confine itself to the surviving spouse, children, or siblings…or even friends. It can also cloud the ability of those who are dying to ask for what they want. Many of us are not used to being cared for and/or receiving care and/or help from others. At the end of our life, most of us have no other choice. There comes a time for most when surrender is the only option and accepting help the only answer." Stacey Canfield
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